Our time together
Our time together
There are many ways I can support you and a multitude of different options for you. Birth is something to treasure forever - however your baby comes into the world. I want for you to be happy and I don’t care how that looks - I want you to be well-informed, then I want whatever YOU want from there!
So here’s how our time together might look in more detail.
It’s always best to have a chat and we can discuss you as an individual woman, your body, your mind and your needs.
For now, have a read of this…
Pregnancy can feel like a never-ending list of things to do, prepare, read and decisions to make. but with the right support it can be a time of such growth and joy.
As your Antenatal Doula, I offer you my services as a Doula throughout your pregnancy and up until your baby's birth. The difference is, I won't attend your birth. I’ll leave the experience for you and your partner to enjoy together.
Full Doula support from Day 1
Ask me your questions, share your feelings, know that you have someone dedicated to you throughout your entire pregnancy.*1
Week 20 we begin thinking about your birth wishes and make a wishes document together. This is then handed to your care providers.
You can de-brief your midwife appointments with me, clarify information and talk to me about how you are feeling.
We can share yoga for pregnancy, hypnobirthing, positive affirmations, mantras, meditations (if that's your thing.)
We can debate the latest evidence, delve into statistics or simply chat about your instincts and intuition. Your body, your baby.
We de-bunk myths you may have heard, unpick any fears or anxieties you have about Birth, figure out where they have come from and put you at ease through looking carefully at evidence-based information and helping you to tune into your own maternal wisdom.
Week 30, we begin to prepare you logistically and emotionally for birth - including preparing your home or packing a hospital bag (if you want)
Together we can ensure you have the basics ready for welcoming your baby to your family.
Week 37-42, you'll be listening into your body more carefully, waiting for the first signs of labour. You can use my support as much or as little as you want here. Call me when you think you feel your first 'twinge' if you wish. You might want information about what you're feeling, you might want my (by this point) familiar reassuring voice on the phone, or you might have everything you need and not feel to include me at this stage at all.
If you decide you want me as your Antenatal Doula, I will walk the journey of your pregnancy by your side. I do a lot of listening. I'll only share evidence-based information with you and your partner to help you make informed choices for you. I have no agenda about how your pregnancy or birth should be. As your Doula I want you to make decisions that are right for you and your baby. I want what you want. I'll be on the end of the phone, Whatsapp, email, text or Skype for any pondering idea, rant, dilemma or musing, right up until your 'Guess Date'.
When you baby is born, I will still be here for you, up to 6 weeks postpartum, on the end of the phone for anything you might need.
*1 - It's important to note: I do not replace your (hopefully) very wonderful, expert Midwifery care. I am not medically trained. A Doula is someone who supports and enhances the care you receive from your healthcare professionals. We will not be in conflict and we generally love working together because we all have the same goal - for a happy mother-to-be and a safe and beautiful birth experience for you and your baby.
Similarly, a little note about Fathers/Birth partners. I do not and would never want to replace the role of your baby's father or primary Birth Partner. Partners are really important people in the birthing room. The love they share and the oxytocin the couple produces when they look at each other, touch, kisses, cuddles, will all fuel your labour – way more effective than any artificial hormone drip. Having said that, some dads want to wait outside altogether, some feel big adrenaline rushes as soon as her labour starts and need a lot of support themselves. A doula is there to be that extra practical, emotional and informational support for the couple *as a team* and ensure the best possible outcome for mother and baby.
Birth Doula Support
From the minute you choose me to be your Doula I am at your service and our relationship starts FROM There.
Hopefully we have lots of meet-ups, cups of tea and really good chats in the run-up to your labour and birth and form a special relationship of trust and understanding.
Here's how it might look:
Free introductory meeting, face to face to see if we fit.
From the moment you book me, I am available for you through your pregnancy by phone, email, whatsapp. You can ask me any questions, queries, have a rant, cry or a mini fist-pump celebration with me whenever you like. I can accompany you at hospital visits, scans or help you prepare your home for a new arrival.
2 x Prenatal sessions - usually 60-90 minutes each, preferably one with your partner but he/she is welcome to both. During these meetings we will discuss:
your birth wishes. I'll help you make a birth wishes document
your comfort measures
how your partner can help support you during your labour
work through any anxieties or fears you have about birth
how to get the best out of your healthcare professionals
(we make an induction wish list at 40 weeks...)
4. I'll be on call 2 weeks before your due date and until you baby is born, however long we wait for him/her!
5. I'll stay with you for a few hours after birth to make sure you and your partner are settled with your new baby and have established feeding before leaving you to it.
6. 1 x Post natal visit. I'll visit you a day or two after your birth depending on your wishes (sometimes it's the following week.) During this time I can:
listen and talk through your birth story
discuss any questions you have about motherhood
help you with any breastfeeding concerns
bring you yummy food requests
Put the washing on or anything else I can do to help!
7. I am available to you for consultation 4 weeks after birth. You can get in touch with any questions your might have, for a chat, some moral support or just some friendly company.
*Needless to say – if you need something else – don’t be afraid to ask. I can accompany you to appointments, scans, assessments if you need additional support, I really am at your service.
**This support is tailored for and by you. We can add prenatal sessions, add 1:1 yoga sessions, Closing of the Bones Ceremony, postnatal visits, whatever you want. Once we meet, we can create the best support package for you.
Postnatal Doula Support
As your Postnatal Doula I offer you encouragement, love and a practical pair of hands!
I can visit you 1,2,3 or 4 times a week for as long as you desire in the first 6-10 weeks. I can:
hold you or your new baby
help you address any breastfeeding concerns and support you as you begin your breastfeeding journey.
wash up, tidy up, clean up (generally help around the house to make you feel more settled)
care for other siblings, the new big brothers or sisters
talk to you about how you're feeling, as a new mother, emotionally, and physically
simply help you adjust to family life with your baby.
I can also offer you the Closing of the Bones Ceremony when you feel ready at any time in your fourth trimester or beyond.
I can help you get to grips with Baby Wearing so you can free up your hands and allow your baby that dreamy skin-to-skin nap time.
My postnatal Doula Support is charged at an hourly rate.
Please do reach out so we can have a phone chat about any part of my Doula services, and chat about you and your pregnancy in more detail.