Incoming Doula

Incoming Doula


I’m packing my Doula Bag and heading home.

It's my privilege to be a Doula and walk the path of pregnancy and birth by your side. I miss it so much, the connection, the learning, the heart to heart service and the joy, so much mind-altering joy. So. I'm planning two trips home to the UK, one in March and one in UK Summer June until August. I have some personal matters to be there for, but importantly, I feel compelled to offer my Doula services while I am home and have the support of my family to do so.

So I have two potential openings for two mothers-to-be. If you are pregnant and expecting your baby sometime in March OR June/July in the South Bucks, Berkshire or West London area and would like a Doula, or feel you'd like some additional support through your pregnancy and birth but don't really know what a Doula is or how I could help you, please do get in touch because, it all begins, with a cup of chai and a chat! A big long chat.

Depending on your wishes, we will...

  •  'meet' via telephone or Skype sometime that's convenient for you, then we chat about everything and anything you'd like to regarding your knowledge of doulas, pregnancy, birth and how you'd like it all to go for you - importantly how you see me supporting you. 

  •  If we feel mutually that we are a good match for each other, beautiful, I'm yours from that day forth until 4 weeks after your baby is born. That's it. I'm invested and committed to supporting you to have the most positive experience you can. 

  •  Depending on your baby's estimated arrival date, we will do 2 x prenatal sessions via Skype. I help you and your partner to write your birth wishes. You'll ask all your questions and I'll signpost to information you need to make decisions you're happy with. Together we unpick any fears or anxieties about birth and prepare you for a positive and joyful experience. This ranges from logistical, practical, emotional plans and physically planning. It should be a time of serenity, calm excitement and bliss so I'll aim to protect you from any negativity out there surrounding pregnancy and birth and always always guide you in the direction of the evidence. 

  •  You can contact me at any time in between these sessions and anytime at all really throughout your pregnancy. Sometimes navigating contradictory information, all the books and all the advice can feel overwhelming so I am your non-judgemental, unbiased and loving supporter who can guide you through the maze and help you and your partner to make the informed decisions you need to prepare for your birth. Your baby, your way, your birth. 

  •  I'll fly in to go-on call for you from the moment I land until your baby is born. 

  • I’ll stay with you and help you establish your first breastfeed, settle you in and step away to leave you all to it when the moment is right.

 The rest we design together. 

Read more about our time together and a little about me if you want.

It's important that you know I have no agenda or preferences as to how you give birth or your choices during your pregnancy. As your doula I want what you want. It's my role to give you all the information, present your options and empower you to have the experience you want, as far as you can. 

I can't wait to hear from you. I'm filled with gratitude and happiness that soon you'll be welcoming your baby and I hope I can be a positive part of that for you. 

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12 Breastfeeding Myths

12 Breastfeeding Myths

Photo credit: Julia Lorraine Peterson -  with permission.

Photo credit: Julia Lorraine Peterson - with permission.

There are a 12 Myths that can really have a negative impact on a mother’s breastfeeding. There is evidence to show a clear link between these myths and mothers not reaching their feeding goals and this makes me really sad. So. Let’s bust them.

  1. A mother should wash her nipples before breastfeeding.

    No. Only when a mother is formula feeding should she be vigilant about cleanliness. Formula is a good breeding ground for bacteria. It can be easily contaminated and will provide zero protection against baby getting infections, unlike breast milk.

  2. You need to eat specific foods to make milk.

    No. A breastfeeding mother should obviously try to eat a balanced diet but there is nothing special that she needs and nothing really to avoid strictly. She does not need to drink milk to make milk or avoid garlic, spice, cabbage or even alcohol. Sometimes something she eats might affect the baby, but this is relatively unusual.
    In fact, “colic”, “gassiness” and crying can be improved by changing breastfeeding techniques, rather than changing the mother’s diet.

  3. Babies under 6 months need juice or water.

    Breastmilk contains all of the fluid and hydration a baby needs. Offering a baby water will fill the baby’s stomach and mean they aren’t getting the nutrients they require from breastmilk. If baby is full and not feeding, the mother’s milk supply will be affected.

  4. You have to avoid oily fish when breastfeeding.

    No. But you should limit your intake to 2 portions a week. Oily fish is, mackerel, salmon, trout, sardines…This is because oily fish contain pollutants such as dioxins and polychlorinated biphenyls (PCBs).

  5. You should avoid feeding your baby the night milk you expressed due to sleep inducing hormones. And you should label, date and store the night milk separately.

    No. A study found that the concentration of certain sleep-associated chemicals fluctuate in human breast milk over a 24 hour period. However their effect on babies was not directly examined so it cannot be assumed that they have an effect on babies’ sleep.

    This myth could actually be quite damaging because it might motivate mothers to express at really inconvenient times of the day causing a lot of anxiety (we need to make breastfeeding as uncomplicated and stress-free as possible). It could be the turning point for a mother to give up and turn to formula.

  6. Large boobs equals more milk.

    No. Research into breast size and milk production shows that milk supply is not dependent on breast size, but rather on the amount of epithelial tissue contained in a breast that is capable of making milk.

  7. Pain is normal and should be expected.

    No. The first few days will be tender, and this is common. But the tenderness is temporary and will ease after a few days or after the first week in many cases. It should never be so bad that a mother dreads nursing. If it is, it’s almost always due to the baby latching on poorly. Any nipple pain after day 5 or 6 days should not be ignored.

    IF a mother has a new wave of pain when things have been going well for a while, it might be thrush. Keep feeding and support her to see her GP. Limiting feeding time does not prevent soreness.

  8. Mothers should space feedings to allow breasts to refill.

    No. That’s not the way it works. Breasts are never empty so if your baby wants to feed, there will be milk for her, don’t worry about that. I just read somewhere that it’s like trying to empty a river…impossible! MIlk will always be there in a constant supply and demand flow. On average baby will drink 75%-80% of the breast’s available milk. Research also tells us that the emptier the breast, the faster the breast makes milk. So when baby removes a large percentage of milk from the breast, milk production will speed up in response.

    It is actually counterproductive to space feeds because any delay over time will decrease a mother’s milk supply seeing as her body will think that her baby needs less feeds. Milk production slows when milk accumulates without being emptied from the breast.

  9. Premature babies cannot exclusively breastfeed.

    No - they absolutely can. Breastfeeding is possible from 28 weeks gestation when they have a strong rooting reflex. A baby is considered a Preemie if they are born before 37 weeks. Breast milk is extremely important for these babies, to help them develop and grow. If you keep your baby skin-to-skin in Kangaroo Care, he or she might develop the rooting reflex sooner. See Small Wonders film for more info.

  10. All babies must be on the breast for 30 minutes on each side or they won’t get the hind (fatty) milk.

    No. But let’s be clear about what being ‘on the breast’ means because there’s a difference between on the breast and breastfeeding, drinking, or suckling. If a baby is on the breast and drinking for 15-20 minutes on one side, he or she might not want the other side. But if he or she drinks only a minute on the first side, and then suckles and falls asleep for 10 minutes, that’s different. A good latch means baby will feed better and longer. Baby can also be helped to breastfeed longer if the mother compresses the breast to keep the flow of milk going. Breast compression can also help to naturally boost a mother’s milk supply.

  11. Poor milk supply is usually caused by stress/fatigue or inadequate food or water intake by the mother.

    No. Tiredness is a given in early motherhood…and in fact…possibly motherhood forever :) But fatigue and stress does not affect milk supply. Neither does inadequate food or water. Milk supply will only be affected if the mother’s calorie intake becomes critically low for a prolonged period of time. Generally, the baby will get what he or she needs. If a mother eats badly for a few days the milk is not affected. It is also a little myth that breastfeeding mothers should eat 500 extra calories a day but this is not true. Some do eat more and some eat less and milk and baby are unaffected. Eat according to your appetite and let’s not make breastfeeding unnecessarily complicated.

  12. Breastfeeding is super duper easy.